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November 2008


Back on the Baby Making Train

Everything is A-OK.

My FSH is 10, E2 is 45 and while that’s much higher than I’d like either of those numbers to be…it’s still OK and good to go.
I start the on Monday CD5-9.
Here’s hoping it will be as effective as the last time.

We’ve decided to do December Clo.mid.
If needed, we’ll do one more Cl.omid in January IF it hasn’t thinned out my lining too much.
After that, we’ll try one more IVF cycle with the new estrogen priming protocol.
I think that will be it for me.

By this point it will be Springtime…and if I’m still not pregnant we move to the final plan:
K becomes my egg donor.  We’re not sure our insurance will cover that so I’m going to check on that this week.

It’s good to have a plan and it feels good for the break to be over.

She’s Baaaacccckkkk

K and I both started our periods within hours of each other Thanksgiving morning.  It’s nice to know we’re in synch.

The red-head is totally normal this month and I’m so relieved.
Tomorrow morning, I go in for blood and U/S and we’ll know by the afternoon if December we can get back on the baby-making train…

Bangkok Thanksgiving

One year ago we celebrated Thanksgiving in Bangkok.  We thought this would be our last bit “hurrah” of a holiday.  We thought we’d maybe be pregnant by now.  We were wrong.  We have learned a lot in this past year.  We will learn more in the next.  But…it has been an amazing year.  I’ve tried to make the most of every month and to take life as it comes.  I’m thankful for this blog community for helping me along the way.  And for my wife…who is always there for me.  

That meal looks a little different, huh?  Yes, those are leaves.  Yes, you eat them.  

Overly Ambitious

On the To Do List for Today:

  1. Go to Dentist-have filling replaced
  2. Drop off boots at Cobbler’s
  3. Brave the crowds at Tra.der Joes
  4. Carry 30 lbs of groceries back home
  5. Eat More Sushi
  6. Do 5 loads of laundry
  7. Conference Call (I’m ‘working’ from home today)
  8. Check email and make sure there’s nothing that can’t wait until Monday
  9. Pick up Dry Cleaning
  10. Go to regular grocery store
  11. Buy a case of cat food at pet store
  12. Peel and chop 3 lbs of carrots for “Citrus Gl.azed Carrots”
  13. Make 2 loaves of Pumpkin Bread
  14. Peel 4 lbs of squash and 2 lbs of turnips for casserole
  15. Peel and quarter 6 lbs of pears for “pear and blueberry cobbler with cornmeal biscuits”
  16. Discover Pears are not ripe enough.  
  17. Sulk.
  18. Make Gingerbread instead
  19. Go to Gym (K)
  20. Listen to Pan.dora Radio while doing most of the above
  21. Make Punjabi Chicken and Spinach for Dinner
  22. Watch a movie
We’re on #21 and it’s 6:30pm….not bad for a day’s work!
I’m thankful we work together as a team.


It is one month to the day that I got sick—and I’m still suffering a bit from TNC (the never-ending cold).

But last night….for the first time in a month…I slept without a ‘cough sweet’ clinging to the roof of my mouth.

It was still there, tucked under my pillow ‘just in case’ when I woke up this morning (I can’t leave them on the night stand because the monster hones in on them and plays cat-as-hockey-player games in the dark of the night and all you hear is ping-rustle rustle-ping as he bounces them against the wall).

What I didn’t know is that K has been finding the wrappers all over the bed! Haha!

Vee and Jay, I know you are horrified right now—possibly beyond words—to learn that I’ve continued on with my deadly practice. But here I am—Alive!

I asked my mom about this ‘practice’ of mine and she said while she doesn’t do it ‘regularly’, she has done it.

So there you go: blame it on my mother!

Day 27: Finally called the RE about the spotting issue…..I know I should’ve done it earlier. But we talked and while he was concerned, he said that we’ll do a day 3 U/S and bloodwork and go from there. He also said “since you had an irregular period, this may very well go hand in hand with that” which, yeah, is kind of what I was thinking. He says there’s no cause for concern UNLESS this becomes a pattern with me. So, now….just waiting for the Old Red Head to make a visit…should be any day now…or not considering this month has been somewhat out of whack. Either way, I’m ready.


Hello Again Florida!

Good news today from the Sunshine State!

I’m not saying we’re thinking about moving…but it’s a nicer place for gays today.

ETA: I know this decision still has to go further and will be appealed but the fact that something positive is happening at all gives me hope.


Melty Point

Dear Mr. Deli Man:

Times are tough. You’re lucky I’m still coming into your crappy deli because there’s a better one 3 blocks further I prefer.
But when you give me a $7 tuna melt ‘panini’ and the cheap American cheese isn’t even melted…that’s not a panini, Mr. Deli Man–that’s a half-assed job and it’s not like you were even busy.

While I’m sure there are worse things than a non-melted, lukewarm panini I can’t think of any right now because I’m starving and I want to eat my lunch.
But it’s in the toaster oven getting hot.

That girl who probably isn’t going to come back any time soon.

ETA: The other deli doesn’t give me free chips with my panini so I’m taking this as a sign the universe doesn’t want me to eat potato chips.


Day 25 of the Break

This morning we met a group of 10 TTC NYC-area bloggers and had a great time talking to those we’d met before and getting to know new couples.  I can’t believe how many people I’ve been able to meet from this blog.  These are couples I don’t think we would’ve met otherwise in our busy lives and it’s one more reason I’m so grateful for this blog community.  Thanks Gia, for helping to bring us all together face-to-face.

Braving the cold weather and the madness of SoHo on a Sunday afternoon, we spent the rest of the afternoon shopping–not an activity K is fond of and not one that either of us do very often if we can help it.  As a result, K has not bought jeans in about 3 years and it was TIME.

The economic downturn has had only a few upsides and shopping has been one of them.  NYC is not known for great customer service, but I’ve been noticing in both restaurants and retail shops…the staff seem to be ‘nicer’ and willing to go a bit further for a sale.
Not to mention the sales!  My god, the stores really want you to buy, buy, buy!  I’ve never seen anything like it before Thanksgiving.

My strategy was to shop around, try on, decide…but NOT buy it.  Then, we’d come back this weekend when surely it would be on sale (or even further on sale…) and then grab and dash!
This is huge for me, because I hate shopping the weekend after Thanksgiving…it’s like a contact sport.
However, today K found a great pair of jeans that were already on sale…then they got us by offering free alternations.  When you are 5 ft. 2, that is a deal catcher, so we bought them.

We ended our weekend with Sushi Sunday which we try to do every week with a group of 8-10 girlfriends (and the occasional gay guy…). I’m fitting in all the raw fish I can eat this month!

The movie last night:  honestly the only reason we rented it is because a good friend of ours in the LA les film biz was involved in producing this film.  I would never tell her–and she doesn’t read this blog–but I didn’t really care for it.  It probably went over much better with a target audience of 20-somethings that are still angry.  
I’m not angry anymore…and I’m so happy about that.

This post is so boring.  Congratulations if you read this far.  I will try to be more exciting tomorrow.
Day 25 and I’m still spotting.  So weird.

So Relaxed…

We trekked out to this Korean spa today.  It was the second time for me, but the first for K.  

Whoa, so relaxing!  We both got Korean body scrubs and massages and while it wasn’t as cheap as Bali, it was a bargain for NYC as this place is at the edge-of-nowhere, suburban Queens which required 3 trains and a free shuttle van.
If you don’t mind getting naked with a bunch of Asian and Russian women–you’ll love this place.

During the 5 hours we spent there, we sampled 5 different hot tubs and 10 different saunas, plus some quite decent Korean food.  There are more pools and tubs on the outdoor top floor of the building (there are 5 floors!) but we just couldn’t get the courage to step outside in the freezing night air to get to the warm water.
This place is like nothing I’ve ever seen!

If you’re in the NYC area and you aren’t actively TTC, it’s a great (warm) way to spend a cold day.
I’m glad I fit it into my month break.

Now we are back at home, drinking homemade hot chocolate and about to watch the Itt.y Bi.tty Ti.tty Committee.
Winter is for nesting…and K is home for a whole 10 days!!!!  It’s like a staycation!


Christmas: Tag You’re It!

Tagged by Two Girls and Their Family–who, by the way, just got a BFP last week so you really should go by and say “hi” as they are pretty new bloggers…

  1. Wrapping paper or gift bags? Both + I’ve done the recyclable brown bags personally decorated. I’m also obsessive at gift Unwrapping time making sure no gift bags get thrown out–then I gather them up, take them home and use them the next year.
  2. Real tree or Artificial? REAL and hideously Manhattan overpriced.
  3. When do you put up the tree? Early December
  4. When do you take the tree down? Hopefully before New Years but I was really lazy one year and it stayed up for an extra month. Then I didn’t feel like hauling it down 4 flights of stairs and it ‘looked’ like it would fit through the window so I thought I’d just push it out of the window into the courtyard below. That didn’t work out so well. Sawing was involved.
  5. Do you like eggnog? Yum.
  6. Favorite gift received as a child? My mom made me a dollhouse out of cardboard boxes and it was amazing. We were so poor and she would hand sew all of the clothes for my dolls, too. I didn’t think much about it then, but looking back now–those gifts were amazing.
  7. Hardest person to buy for? I don’t ‘love’ shopping, so none of it is easy.
  8. Easiest person to buy for? Me!
  9. Do you have a nativity scene? Nope, but we have a Buddha and a Ganesh;)
  10. Mail or email Christmas cards? Definitely mail and I’m working on the labels this week.
  11. Worst Christmas gift you ever received? Pretty much anything from my FIL that isn’t a check is bad. He has no taste and doesn’t ever buy you what you want only what he wants.
  12. Favorite Christmas Movie? The Sound of Music. I know, it hasn’t nothing to do with Christmas, but I usually watch it at Christmas time.
  13. When do you start shopping for Christmas? I shop all year long when I see something and keep it in my Christmas pile. Then I shop from my Christmas pile and hopefully never set foot in a store after Thanksgiving. Or I shop online.
  14. Have you ever recycled a Christmas present? Oh yes, indeed.
  15. Favorite thing to eat at Christmas? My mom’s pfferneuse cookies which she makes and sends me every year. They are little spicy German cookies that resemble big kibbles of dog food.
  16. Lights on the tree? White lights
  17. Favorite Christmas song? I get sick of all of them pretty fast but I dig “Feliz” sung by José F.eliciano and the “Nutcr.acker” suite.
  18. Travel at Christmas or stay home? Travel – upstate NY or to South East Asia.
  19. Can you name all of Santa’s reindeer’s? Si.
  20. Angel on the tree top or a star? Neither. I think we tied a ribbon there last year.
  21. Open the presents Christmas Eve or morning? Both
  22. Most annoying thing about this time of the year? Over commercialization; never ending soundtrack of Christmas songs beginning right after Halloween.
  23. Favorite ornament theme or color? I don’t think I have one. I like variety.
  24. Favorite meal for Christmas dinner? Turkey and stuffing and lots of sides!
  25. What do you want for Christmas this year? Considering I’ll be testing Dec. 24/25th, a BFP would be most excellent. Otherwise, Cash is King.

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