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November 3, 2011


Hello Brother, Hello Sister

We’ve got 1/2 sibs out there.  Looks like 8 that I know of.  Most of them on the East Coast.

Last year I started to sign up for the Donor Sibling Registry–paid the $50 and everything, but then Chicken wasn’t so keen on the idea so I didn’t go through with it.

This year she’s had some time to think about it and so last week I signed up for the free registry on CCB.  And….then I got an email.  Single mom with a 4 year old.  Lives about an hour away.  
I was stunned.  I knew there was someone in NY and I had a feeling they could be in the area, but still…there’s nothing like the knowing.
There’s a couple in PA, RI, MA, Seattle and Portland.  Some families with twins, some with singletons.  Heavy on the boys.
We’ve started connecting on FB.   I’ve seen the photos and heard about the similarities.  It’s crazy.

The mom who made initial contact has met all of the other families and kids.
Well….we have always wanted to visit Seattle and Portland….now we have a really good reason to make it happen!

I’m excited.  I came from a very small family and don’t have a close relationship with my siblings at all.  The boys have us and they have each other, but they only have one close cousin through Chicken’s family and none close by.  

This past week we had the chance to watch “Donor Unknown” on PSB and I thought, “Yeah, I want to go forward with this. I want to see if we can find the other families.  I want to give my kids the opportunity for a bigger family.”  If, when they are older and they choose something else, then that is up to them.

For those of you who saw this documentary–did you cringe when you found out how the ‘star’ donor #150 turned out 20 years later?  Brilliant, but a crazy stoner?
Chicken and I just looked at each other and said, “Oh god I hope our donor turns out ok.”  We do have an open donor, so in just 16 short years our sons might also be taking a trip to California looking for some answers.  And whatever they find, I hope we can all handle it with grace.

In the meantime…looks like we’re going to do some more family-building after all.


It’s True, I Signed Up for NaBloPoMo

And I mean I officially signed up.  Never been that committed before, but things are a-changing around here.
I’ve always got a ton of ‘posts’ that I’m writing in my head plus I have a lot of drafts going, so I know I’ve got the material–I just have to get it out there.

The other thing….and I’ve been thinking about this a LOT….is that I’m thinking of taking this show out on a bigger road.  No, I’m not going to try my hand at stand up comedy.
But, I do need a job of sorts.  Anything that will pay me even a little bit of money would be nice.
And I like writing.  I have an established blog.  And for some reason, people stop by here every day.  Quite a few people.  
When I get an email from a total stranger saying “thank you for writing this”….well.  WOW.  Thank YOU for reading.

I didn’t start this blog to make money.  I had no idea what I was doing when I started.  All I knew was that I’d been lurking around reading everyone else’s blog for over a year and there were things I needed to say!  I still don’t know what I’m doing (hello, have you seen my generic template?!) but I finally have a bit of ‘free’ time to work, learn and put forth more effort into my little blog.

Blogging has been an amazing form of therapy for me.  I have formed so many relationships, made friends and been able to be a part of a community that never would have existed in my ‘real life’.
That community started out as lesbians TTC, then my circle grew to include infertility, then women trying to conceive through egg donation, then to pregnant with twins and raising twins and lesbian families and gay dads and now….I’m branching out to the travel families.
So many of us ended up here because of the TTC process.  Many of us left after ‘goal achieved’.  Some of us kept blogging…sporadically….because life with a newborn sure does take away your blogging time.  Others decided they were too private to be a mommy blogger and put there family ‘out’ there.
I’ve had my own experience with a crazy lady or two that made me think twice about whether to go private or even shut down the blog altogether.

In the end, I decided to keep writing.  Put it all out there–I am who I am.  If I’m able to find a way to make some money off my blog while still staying true to the Pufferfish, I hope you will support me and keep reading.

Or maybe you’ll at least stick around for the cute photos.

Who needs a step stool when you can wash your hands and brush your teeth while standing on top of the kitty litter box? (more space savings tips from “How to Live in a One Bedroom Apartment with Twins” coming up!)

I believe Grunter tried to push W2 off right after I took this photo.  
But, oh the love.  If only for a moment!  
Yes, we have a map of the world as our shower curtain.  
I like to learn geography on the toilet.