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Just a Few Reasons Why I Married Her

After making a very short list Saturday morning of “people I hope to never meet because they clearly have a stick up their ass”, we managed to have a wonderful holiday weekend.


K got stuck in Vegas last week during the freaky snow storm and didn’t get home until Friday.
She was supposed to leave town again Saturday morning which I was super bummed out about. But as luck would have it (for me!) weather in other parts of the country prevented the trip.
It’s been a long, long time since I’ve had my wife all to myself, with no plans on a holiday weekend.  She didn’t even have any work to do!!

We braved the cold Saturday and shopped outside in the Union Square holiday markets, making our way on foot to midtown where we looked at Ma.cy’s windows.  Then we figured, we made it this far–why not go up to 5th Ave, Bryan.t Park and R.ockefeller Center? We walked up to see those lights, the tree and made it a total ‘tourist in NYC night’–complete with burgers, fries and a shake at the this Joint inside the Le Parker Me.ridien.  After all that walking, we deserved it! 
It was great fun although we both forgot just how massive the crowds would be on the Saturday night before Christmas.

I love my wife.  When the tears came Sunday morning she reminded me of the very long list of things we have in our lives and how lucky we are.  We have so much and so many options.  She assured me that whether this baby comes from my body, her eggs or a far away country–that we would have a child.
She cooked me pancakes and kissed away my tears and spooned me on the couch while Christmas music played and candles glowed.
She is so sweet and kind and relentlessly positive no matter how doubtful I become.

This morning after staring at the pregnancy test that has been mocking me for days to pee on it, I gave in.  Yes, me, harper of ‘don’t test early!’ broke down and POASed 3 days early.
It was clearly negative.  And with that, I decided to work from home and crawled back in bed with K.
I have not left the house.  I have not showered.  I have not gotten dressed and I’m still in my pj’s and about to go back to bed until tomorrow.
I can’t help but compare my chart over and over, every freaking day, to my ‘successful BFP’ chart in August.  This chart is so similar.  I tested on Day 26 that month and it was negative. And then I looked closer.  It’s Day 26.  The only 2 months out of 8 tries I’ve ever tested early and they are both on the same day.
There’s still hope.
But at this point, I don’t think I’m buying another test.  I’ll either get my period in a few days.  Or I won’t.
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14 Comments

  • Reply cindyhoo2 December 23, 2008 at 4:22 am

    Your partner sounds perfect for you! What a lovely weekend you guys had. I’ll keep all my fingers and toes crossed that you will have a repeat BFP.

  • Reply eeney meeney miney mommy December 23, 2008 at 4:38 am

    K sounds like an angel and you two must be just perfect together.
    If anything positive came of this, it’s that you convinced me not to test early. Each time is different so it’s not over yet, you still have a little time. Sorry for the crush today but let’s hope for a BFP in a couple of days.

  • Reply wishinghopingpraying December 23, 2008 at 7:31 am

    I’m so glad your wife was there to help you through. I am still holding out lots of hope for you. Big hugs are headed your way.

  • Reply vee December 23, 2008 at 10:58 am

    I so hope you guys get what you really want and deserve on Christmas morning – a beautiful BFP.

  • Reply Keely December 23, 2008 at 1:10 pm

    I still have hope, too. But whatever happens you have options– and at this very moment you have a beautiful life and a great wife…

  • Reply anofferingoflove December 23, 2008 at 2:28 pm

    what a wonderful woman you have!

    sorry to hear about the ugly white space on the hpt. that never gets easier to see. im holding out hope for you still ~ its EARLY!!

  • Reply nutella December 23, 2008 at 3:11 pm

    Sounds like you had a lovely NYC holiday weekend. Which you SO deserve with your sweetie! Sorry about the early -, but it IS early. Stay warm and enjoy the next few days. Still hoping that a + will be your biggest present this year.

  • Reply Sarah at Notes from 2 Moms December 23, 2008 at 3:50 pm

    pajamas can cure lots of things… stay in them.

  • Reply A December 23, 2008 at 4:01 pm

    Your wife sounds wonderful. You are a lucky girl.
    There is still hope. I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed for a BFP this Christmas.

  • Reply Mommy and Mamita December 23, 2008 at 4:36 pm

    Not that I don’t do it too, but there is never any benefit to testing early. There is still time and I’m still hopeful for you for this cycle. I’m glad K is being so great.

  • Reply queerstork December 23, 2008 at 5:21 pm

    Fuck it, I’m throwing us an IVF party. This IUI stuff is a racket.

    (But I do hope it’s just a case of the tooearlytotestitis).

  • Reply Bree December 23, 2008 at 6:32 pm

    What a lovely weekend, thatonedamnedtest aside. I’m still way hopeful for you this cycle. In the meantime, enjoy your beautiful city and your fabulous wife!

  • Reply Tui December 23, 2008 at 8:44 pm

    I hope the test was just too early, and I’m still holding out hopes for the perfect Christmas present for you two. Sounds like an excellent weekend and just what you needed.

  • Reply Heidi December 24, 2008 at 1:05 pm

    Thank you K for taking care of our dear Travelher.

    I think the similarities between the cycle you got pregnant and this one are wonderful!!!

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