Want a Midwife in Manhattan? Call BEFORE You Get Pregnant.

My blood is boiling right now and I am in serious disbelief.  I’d heard that I needed to ‘get started’ on things quickly in this city–but seriously?!

I called the midwife practice of my choice 2 days after I found out my beta.  I’m 3rd on the wait list as they are full for February.
I don’t see how this could even be possible!
But apparently some (sounds like most) women call when they are TRYING.  As in, I should’ve called on the egg retrieval date–just in case.
New York City is really getting to me in so many ways and this is just one more example.
And it’s pouring rain–again.

Tomorrow morning we leave for an upstate trip to the Adirondacks and Lake George.  Please, please let there be sun!!

Thanks for all of the questions–you came up with some really good ones and I’m going to tackle them in later posts.
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  • Reply AdventuresInBabyMaking June 18, 2009 at 5:14 pm

    Wow – well you better start calling daycare centers and probably even preschools while the little one(s) is/are still in utero…

  • Reply Jen June 18, 2009 at 5:17 pm

    Whoa—this is something I do not miss about living in the midwest! Good luck on finding someone. Is there an OB as a back up plan?

  • Reply Keely June 18, 2009 at 5:20 pm

    Oh and start looking into daycare/preschool NOW. I know it’s crazy. Brooklyn is a tiny bit better, but not much.
    But conversely, there are so many great things to do with kids here! (Don’t leave, please!) Have much fun at Lake George!

  • Reply thebao June 18, 2009 at 5:33 pm

    DOH! That is out-of-control crazy! Good luck with finding a good provider, and have a blast on your trip.

  • Reply Melissa June 18, 2009 at 5:36 pm

    That’s CRAZY!! Have you already sent off college application letters 😉

  • Reply Rachel June 18, 2009 at 5:39 pm

    This was my EXACT experience (and I think I wrote about it here: http://longdistanceinfertility.blogspot.com/2008/05/trying-not-to-panic.html). In the end I found a midwife and I’m happy to talk about specific ones (I don’t recommend either of the ones in the practice I used) and strategies for finding one if you send me an e-mail at longdi.st.an.ce.infertility@gmail.com.

  • Reply anofferingoflove June 18, 2009 at 6:05 pm

    thats crazy! and im surprised the practice would even take on the woman as a client if she was just “trying” and didnt have a confirmed pregnancy yet. #3 is probably a pretty good bet you’ll get in, at least.

    have a fun vacation – hope the sun shines for you!

  • Reply Boo June 18, 2009 at 9:06 pm

    I have LOTS of opinions about NYC midwives, so if you need suggestions for others (beyond the list that you have) please let me know- figboiler@gmail.com. There are so many fabulous midwives in NYC that I feel confident that you will find one who is a perfect fit for you.

  • Reply projectkjetil June 18, 2009 at 9:25 pm

    It makes me angry, thinking that you would have to compete for space in a midwives’ practice, then daycare, then preschool, then school… urgh. It’s enough to make you want to raise your children on a sailboat circumnavigating the world, isn’t it? I hope that the right spot opens up for you, and I’m sorry for the stress.

  • Reply Heather June 18, 2009 at 9:52 pm

    Wow, that far in advance?? This practice must be top knotch! I’m hoping that there is some sun upstate because there sure is none here on Long Island. If you find some, post a picture of it.. I forgot what it looks like!

  • Reply oneofhismoms June 19, 2009 at 12:41 am

    If it makes you feel any better, I was on two waiting lists and got off of both of them the same day. And I didn’t call until week 8. So I’m sure you won’t be midwifeless.

  • Reply Lizette June 20, 2009 at 7:02 pm

    That is just crazy! No wonder the nurses in the NICU said we should start looking for pre-schools now! By the way, finally got my blog up and running…so now I can comment without being ANON! =)

  • Reply Next in Line June 21, 2009 at 2:51 pm

    We have been on daycare list since I was 7 weeks and I live in Canada and won’t even need daycare until the child is a year! Even going on the lists at 7 weeks likely isn’t early enough to get us a spot.
    It is tough to raise kids in this culture.

  • Reply Gayby Rabies June 21, 2009 at 9:55 pm

    Insane. If I had called a midwife when I first started trying (September) they probably would have given up on me by now.

  • Reply carley June 22, 2009 at 1:46 pm

    Same thing here (alberta) for getting a midwife. You have to call as soon as the pee dries on the stick and even then you will most likely end up on a wait list.

    A friend put her son on a waitlist for daycare when he was 2m old, she JUST got a call this month saying they had a spot for him, he turned 2 in March.

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